Time has passed and you really just miss your ex a lot. Feelings of regret are deep in your heart and mind and you just can’t take it anymore. You want him/her back, you have made up your mind and there is no turning back. If you have to get your ex back, there is a proper approach to win him/her back again.
The following are eight simple to follow steps that will help you through this process and ensure that you have the best possible outcome.
1. Make The First Move:
If you are serious about trying to get back with your ex, it is important that you make the first move. In reality, you have no idea if your ex-plans on ever contacting you again or ever trying to fix things between the two of you. That is why you must contact them first. It is important that you do not contact them before you are ready however because this will surely lead to undesired results. If your ex does not seem like they want to speak to you right away it is a good idea for you to give them some time and try again.
2. Don’t Have Unrealistic Expectations:
It is important when you contact your ex that you do not have unrealistic expectations of how the conversation will go. You should not expect to hear them say that everything is ok and that everything will go back to how it was immediately. These are completely unrealistic expectations because your ex is probably just as hurt as you are over the breakup. Things are going to take time to get better and you have to give your ex the time they need to heal as well. Basically, you need to understand that your relationship is basically starting over.
3. Have A Good Attitude:
It is important that you are optimistic when contacting your ex. You do not want to fill your head with negative thoughts because they will surely get in the way of you rekindling your love with your ex. Have positive thoughts and believe in your heart that everything will work out and you will have a much better chance of succeeding.
4. Don’t Over Do It:
When contacting your ex and trying to fix your relationship you do not want to seem needy or bug your ex with a hundred phone calls throughout the day. As mentioned before, this is a process that is going to take time. Your ex will likely want a little bit of space at first. It is advised that you are proportional with the frequency of your calls.
5. Control Your Emotions:
Before you even try to contact your ex, it is important that you make sure that you have complete control of your emotions. You need to keep in mind that your ex may have some things to say that may be hard for you to hear. You need to be in an emotional state that will allow you to deal with this conversation in a productive manner. Getting angry or upset when you contact your ex is a sure way of making sure you do not get back together.
6. Steer Clear Of The Past:
It is important that you do not continuously revert your conversations back to the past. You need to discuss your issues in order to be able to fix them but you may want to wait a while before doing this. If you do discuss your issues in the past it is important that your statements are very well thought out and that you do not dwell in the past. Focus on the future and make it clear that you have the best intentions for your relationship now. Describe to your ex the changes you have made and the person you plan on being now as well as the life that you can provide for them.
7. Don’t Rush Them:
You should never rush or try to persuade your ex into getting back with you or coming back home. You need to let them decide when they are ready. You may want to bring the question up if they think it would be a good idea but if they are not sure to give them time and do not rush them.
8. Be Strong:
You cannot give up too quickly when you are trying to contact your ex. If they do not want to speak to you at first do not give up but at the same time do not become a stalker. Your ex will surely appreciate your persistence and it will make them feel like they are worth something to you. Give them time and they will be sure to give you a chance.